Socializing is a great way to As humans, we need to socialize, if we don’t we’re screwed mentally and, of course, socially ~.~ However, another one of the many quarks of socializing is hanging out with the “right” groups of people.
There’s a million different things that can be said about this, but I’m just going to focus on one aspect: hanging out with people from the same/around the same socioeconomic group you’re from.
What that f*ck are you talking about?
Put simply, if you’re somewhat well off, try to hang around a majority of people who are also well off; if you’re poor(er), hang around other people in the same dire financial situation you’re in. Try to avoid having a majority of your friends be from a completely different
socioeconomic S.E. group than you.
What the f*ck?! Why should I? I don’t see what’s the big deal!
It’s actually a really simple logic (that ultimately involves less stress), not to mention lessons learned the hard way ~.~
Let me begin with a story (’cause you totally f*cking care -.-), when I was in high school, I had a tendency to hang out with people who were from a lower S.E. group than I was. I did this mostly because I felt that the other girls (all girl’s high school, f’ing awesome |-C ) who were probably on my level were mostly (but not all, just mostly) snooty. Anyway, long story short, this caused me so many freakin’ issues.
Before I get started, I’m not saying this is always going to be the case, and I personally can attest to that, it’s just you’re more often than not going to have a problem with a friend if they’re not around the same S.E. level as you. Heck, you’ll still have problems with your friends that are on the same level, it’s just that (usually) certain problems won’t crop up if you stay mostly within your S.E. group, like needing to borrow money.
For instance, there was this one frenemey I had whose name was…Smexis that used to drive me up the freakin’ wall.
At the time, F*ck that, I knew what this b*tch was all about ~.~ She was the extremely jealous type, and she used to get pissed whenever, essentially, I could afford something and she couldn’t. Mind you, it’s not my $$$ we’re talking about, it’s my parents. I was an only child with both parents still together (another cause for issues) who both received nice paychecks from their gov’t jobs, which is great for them and I (obviously) benefited from that but it wasn’t my $$$. Whenever we went out (as a group because if I was alone with this b*tch…-.-), this b*tch acted like I should pay for her crap because I was doing better than her. For Christmas one year, I made everyone in our group of friends jewelry and she was upset because “I should have bought her something” and that the “gifts were cheap”, to which I promptly replied ‘then give it back’. Needless to say, the whore still took it, no f’ing surprise there.
To keep from further dredging up bad memories (because I’m one of those types that hated high school in the later years), the list is endless with the crap I had to go through because, truthfully, these people weren’t on the same S.E. as me and I suffered for it. I mean, with Smexis she still was a filthy slut wannabe princess b*tch either way, but at least some of the other issues could have been avoided if we were from the same S.E. group, like some of the other people I hanged out with, which, no surprise, we got along at least slightly better than my poorer friends from that particular group.
The other issues I continuously encountered with this dilemma were never being able to go anywhere with this particular group, doing anything, seeing anything, barely anything at all. I mean, I understand not doing everything and having to cut back on some outings because, at the time, you just don’t have the money, but you still want to go out occasionally, especially as a high school girl. These b*tches seemingly never had any $$$, and in some cases were total moochers. I understand you’re going through tough financial times in your family, but don’t think for one f*cking second people (at least their family) doing better than you owe you something because they freakin’ don’t. It’s no one else’s fault your in your present financial stupor, namely that it’s no one else’s responsibility to make sure you can live a cushy life and enjoy the luxuries because you can’t afford it. If you don’t have the money, so be it, no one’s judging you, but when you start to develop a huge inferiority and entitlement complex, no frickin’ bueno, see ya’ biznitch.
Basically, to sum it all up, people from different S.E. groups have different things to worry about and have different concerns, focuses, and dilemmas to deal with and when you start hanging out with people from a completely different S.E. group, whether poorer or richer, you’re going to have problems.
To add on to this, this is definitely what you call a 2-way street type dilemma. If you’re poorer, you’ll probably drive yourself crazy hanging out with people more well to do than you.
You barely can afford the one piece-of-s*it car you have, meanwhile, your one friend is talking about how her Mom is trying to get another car (a Mercedes), because they’re family really is a 3-car household with every person needing their own car. Let’s see how long you can take that before you lose your d*mn mind ~.~ By the way, that glorious scenario is totally my family, guilty as charged. However, save here, I don’t go around advertising that fact, like some d*uchebags, I keep that little nugget to myself (except for now for example’s sake >.>), less you (the more well off) now have to deal with the carrion birds I call moochers because you couldn’t keep you’re freakin’ mouth shut, or the incessant “debates” you’re going to have with the poorer people in your group of friends because you just have to advertise how much bigger your c*ck/c*nt is than theirs when nobody asked (or cares) in the first place-.-
So, to sum up this overly long article, stick to your guns and try to hang out with people from around the same S.E. group as you. If nothing else, you’ll most likely have more in common with people from the same group as you since…you’re on the same S.E. level. Again, you won’t always run into issues infringing on this, but don’t be surprised when you start butting heads with the person(s) doing better/worse than you in your cloister of friends-.-