Everyone has their own set of beliefs and with the coming (and passing) of college I’ve definitely been putting mine through the ringer. Namely, I’ve been pushing myself to not only have beliefs/maxims about multifarious things, but also developing the self-discipline to stick to them no matter how much they’re being challenged/tested.
Another part of this fine-tuning; granted, I was never that bad for doing this in the first place (at least comparatively), is making sure to distinguish and separate my beliefs that I hold namely myself to, hold others as well as myself, and then holding others and myself to but are a little more flexible according to people’s situations and such.
Needless to say, it can be a lot to distinguish between all these exceptions to holding others to the same morals/scruples as yourself, but is absolutely imperative to do unless you wind up a zealot for your own beliefs, and no one likes a zealot >.>
However, there’s something to be said about the over zealous a$$holes that absolutely insist on judging everyone according to their standards mercilessly with little regard to the situations that may lead someone to “infringe” on their beliefs, nevermind if they’re practical or not. This is similar to another complaint I made about assuming everyone feels/thinks the same way as you (at least I’m pretty sure I did a post with a similar statement ~.~), but the point is that you can’t hold everyone to the same standards and completely ignore circumstances.
In other words, the fallacy of having a black & white morality/lens for things. Most situations/scenarios/life experiences/whatever fall in some shade of gray, making it impossible to use the same lens for everything. So, just keep that in mind before you start mercilessly slaughtering somebody (figuratively >.>) for not obeying your belief system ~.~